Bullying and Self Esteem

Self-awareness is not only the cognition of yourself, but also a certain relation to yourself: to your qualities and conditions, capacity, physical and spiritual strengths, that is, self-esteem. Human as a person is a “self-estimating” creature. Without self-esteem, it is difficult or even impossible to gain independence in the life. True self-esteem implies a critical attitude towards yourself, a constant trying your ability to enforce the imposed requirements, the ability to independently set achievable goals, rigorously evaluate your thoughts and their results, extensively investigate nominated guesses, carefully weigh the pros and cons, and renounce unjustified speculation and versions. Right self-esteem supports the dignity of man and gives him the moral satisfaction. Adequate or inadequate attitude to yourself leads to either the spirit of harmony, providing reasonable confidence in yourself, or to constant conflict, sometimes leading up to human neurotic state. Maximum adequate attitude to yourself is the highest level of self-esteem.

Many people believe that person’s self-esteem largely depends on the understanding his merits by others. When people support a man, they are attentive and kind to him, express approval, the man alleges that he means a lot to everyone and himself. But basing on the concepts of oriental philosophy, self-esteem is the basic essence of man, it’s something with which the person is born, it is the fact that he has by default, because he is a person, because he has been born, because he lives and is a particle of the universe. True self-esteem is based on self-acceptance, acceptance of people, processes of life and the whole world, because that is just like that, and you just need to accept, live and enjoy. Self-assessment is that can not be determined for you by others, it is impossible to understand it with the mind, you can only feel it! In modern psychology there are three types of self-esteem: underestimation, normal, inflated (Powell 2005).

If a person with early childhood has been bullied, his self-esteem drops and in his life he will not succeed, because he will assume that he simply does not deserve it. Self-esteem is very important for everyone because without it people can not believe in themselves and in their strengths to do something. Since bullying is peculiar more to children, nor to adults, the parents must do everything to ensure their child is not subjected to it and to his self-esteem increases as it is a guarantee of future success.

 

References

Caunt, J. (2002). Boost Your Self-Esteem. p. 45.

Elvin, Jesse. (2002). The liability of schools for bullying. The Cambridge Law Journal. Issue 61. pp. 239-294.

Naylor, Paul., Cowie, Helen., Rey, Rosario. (2001). Child Psychology and Psychiatry Review. Cambridge University Press. Volume 6. Issue 3. pp. 114-120.

Powell, J. (2005). Self-Esteem. p. 26.

Smith, Peter K. (2004). Bullying in Schools: How Successful Can Interventions Be? Goldsmiths College. University of London. pp. 47-48.